Dear Birthmother Part 2

Here is the letter we wrote for our prospective birth mother. We also made a collage of photos of us together, our dogs, our house, us with children, nieces and nephews. I think it turned out very sweet. I am researching attornies and social workers for the home study. Kind of a whirlwind. Haven't decorated yet for Christmas - it keeps getting pushed off. Oh, well. It sounds like the birth mother is pretty overwhelmed with life right now, so it may be a while before she is ready to meet us. But she will get our letter and photos this week, and we will do all the footwork that would have to happen anyway. We are still uncertain about whether we would do another IVF if this doesn't work out, but have decided to not think about that until February.

So, here's the letter:

Dear Birthmother,

Our names are S and G. Thank you for taking the time to read this letter. We admire your courage and honesty as you consider the difficult decision of having your child adopted. It shows you have great love and selflessness. If we were blessed enough to adopt your baby, we would be committed to maintaining an open connection and communication between you, your baby, and ourselves.

Our experience with infertility, although difficult, has made it clear that the joy of being parents and raising children is very important to us. Our path has eventually led us to adoption. We are looking forward to the love, shared experience and commitment of having a child in our life. We are eager to give our child our unconditional love. We frequently think about all the wonderful things we’d like to share with our child: building snowmen, snuggling in front of the fire, having tea parties, taking road trips and traveling, reading, playing games, eating peas off the vine and apples off the tree, and most importantly supporting her in her own interests and dreams. Our goal is to be loving and nurturing parents, providing our child with a happy and healthy environment. We want her to grow up knowing she is well-loved, supported in her dreams and has a solid home foundation.

As a couple, we have been married for 6 years, and together for 10 1/2 years. We have a lot in common: both being 37 years old, both with a degree in Biology and both sharing many of the same hopes and dreams. We see life as a spiritual adventure and as a way to celebrate God. We truly enjoy each other’s company, and find that everything is easier if done together; yard work, chopping firewood, and even cleaning the house is more fun when done together. We share a lot of favorite pastimes: gardening, walks with our 2 dogs, hiking, camping, traveling, reading in front of the fire, yoga, making jam and canning our homegrown veggies. S expresses his creativity by writing, while G does so by sewing. Our little kitty Vegas keeps us company by the fire, while our 2 dogs, both mutts, are a source of fun and exercise. Bella, a 6 year old, is sweet and patient – she quietly stands by while kids hang around her neck. Oliver, a playful 2 year old, is always a source of laughs and has a loving disposition.

Our cozy little house in the woods sits on 13 acres. We have a big garden, an orchard, wildflower meadow, a small stream with trout, grassy play areas and pond access. Plenty of places to play, explore, imagine. We are fortunate to own our house free and clear, and plan to add-on and build a covered play area as our child or children get bigger. S works for the State of Washington as a horticulturist and export specialist. He enjoys helping and advising people, and the variety his job offers. G is a healthcare provider, and takes great joy in working with the mothers and babies she cares for. She plans to take an extended maternity leave, then eventually go back to work part-time.

Staying connected to our extended family is important to us, and easy considering some live right next door! S’s father and step-mother are our next door neighbors, and G’s parents plan to build a cottage on our property so they can be close to their grandkids. Our child will have 10 cousins in Washington, California and Colorado. We make frequent trips to see them, and love spending time with our nieces and nephews.

Thanks again for reading this. If you choose us as the parents for your baby, we would be forever appreciative that you helped us become the wonderful parents we know we can be. It would be the greatest gift anyone could ever give us.

S and G


Today I am grateful for:
* a great phone call with a prospective social worker
* having the time this morning to devote to adoption research
* S took the day off - it's always fun to have him around the house on a weekday

What I am doing today to take care of myself:
* plans to decorate the house this evening - fun and joyful and low-stree
* keeping a hopeful, positive attitude about the research - not getting overwhelmed