Well it looks like the potential birth mother considering us decided to go with the other family she was considering. It sounds like the primary reason is geographic - because she moved to a neighboring state recently, if she goes with the family in that state she can adopt under those laws, which includes not having to have the birth father sign consent. Because she moved only recently, if she went with us the adoption would have to be done under our state's laws - which require consent signed by this poopy-butt BF.
The good - more time to work on the lactation protocol, which means using the cheaper meds and greater chance of success. More time with the student midwife working with me right now - I am hoping she and I mesh well enough for us to become partners when she graduates this fall. Not getting into an adoption with a birth father who refuses to sign - yikes!
The bad - the loss of this quick, easy, and inexpensive option. I was so excited to hold my baby in just 2 months. We had narrowed down names to the top 2 choices. Now we decide between continuing independent and signing up with an agency - big decision.
The neutral - we do feel clearly in our hearts that our baby is out there waiting for us, so overall doing ok with this turn of events. We are creating in consciousness that our baby chooses us and we choose our baby and everything flows because it is divinely created.
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7 comments:
Well, it sounds like you are handling it really well. Probably better than I would. I admire your strength and faith. But I am so sorry that it didn't work out for this one. I know you were getting so close. (((hugs)))
I agree with Lea. You are amazing. I am sorry that this one did not work out but I am sure your baby is waiting for you somewhere.
You are weighing your options, accepting what you can't control and showing great strength.
Your wait will come to an end. I am just sorry not as soon as you had hoped. I love your mindset "everything flows because it is divinely created"- beautiful.
Sorry to hear this, but glad you are able to have a positive outlook about the whole thing. I agree completely that your baby will find you and you will find him/her because it will be divine! Here's hoping it's soon!
Melba
Ah, that's crappy, but at least you're already started down the path you want now.
So what would the differences be between staying independent and signing with an agency? Does it basically come down to how you hear about a baby that might be available for adoption?
I took a look at a map to figure out how far it would be from where I'll be for my IVF, to the area I think you live in, in case you might be interested in meeting up, but it looks too far for a day trip. Sucky.
For acu I'm seeing Susan Monaco in Olympia. Who did you see? I also went to Bing Zhou (in Tumwater) last week, because Susan was out of town for a retreat or something.
Ok, I've just done a quick read through of your posts so far, and I have to say I love your blog! A lot!
Your trust in process is beautiful and I am hoping that the flow of the divinely created universe brings your baby to you very, very soon.
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